March 6, 2025

0118 Female Led Relationships: The Power of Pegging in Dominant Dynamics

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In this episode of the podcast, I discusses the topic of pegging, a sexual practice where a woman penetrates a man's anus with a strap-on dildo. I provide a brief description of what pegging is and explains that it may not be for everyone, but it can be a valuable addition to a female-led relationship.

I share my personal experience with pegging, including how I was introduced to it and how it fits into our dynamic with my subbie. I also offers advice for women who are hesitant or curious about trying pegging, emphasizing the importance of open communication and starting slowly.

This episode provides valuable insights into the world of pegging and its role in female-led relationships. My personal experiences and honest discussions about my initial reservations and eventual enjoyment of pegging offer a relatable perspective for listeners who may be curious about the practice. The episode also touches on themes of communication, submission, and the importance of exploring one's desires, making it relevant for listeners interested in kink, BDSM, or exploring new sexual experiences.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about pegging and the dynamics of female-led relationships. It offers a raw and personal perspective, exploring themes of empowerment, control, and intimacy. With discussions on dominance, submission, and emotional bonds, this episode promises to enlighten and entertain, making it a valuable resource for those interested in kink and power play.

Potential Listener Questions

1. What is pegging and how does it fit into a female-led relationship?
2. How can pegging enhance intimacy and empowerment in a relationship?
3. What mindset shifts are necessary for embracing a dominant role in kink dynamics?

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All right, boys and girls.

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This is the Real Deal.

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This podcast is intended for mature audiences only If you're not 18 years of age or older.

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There are thousands of other podcasts you can listen to and you can come back and visit us when you are 18.

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This podcast is meant solely for entertainment.

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We are not licensed doctors, lawyers or therapists.

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We simply have a fascination with the lifestyle and I'd love to share it with you and get your thoughts and opinions.

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Welcome back, episode 18.

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And today we're talking about pegging.

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So let's start with a description or definition of what pegging is, just in case you didn't know Because let me tell you, not so many years ago I wouldn't have known what the fuck pegging was.

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So this is a brief description.

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Actually, it's a technical description, and by technical I mean I googled it and this is what Google told me.

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Pegging is a sexual practice in which a woman penetrates a man's anus with a strap-on dildo.

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This obviously isn't for everyone, but hopefully this episode will provide some insight.

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If you are curious, google didn't say that, I said that.

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Curious, google didn't say that, I said that.

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So if pegging is something you are 100% sure you are not interested in and don't care to hear about.

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This may not be the episode for you Now.

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Let me preface this by saying that some of the topics caged for pegging suggested I talk about are directed at my subbie or his response, but me being the controlling woman that I am, I'm going to answer them for him today and then next week when we do the New Year's episode together.

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He can answer himself and we will see how far off I was with his answers.

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See how far off I was with his answers.

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The first topic of discussion is about my subbie's journey up to and trying it and how it feels for him.

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I don't believe my subbie actually experimented with ass play until after his divorce.

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He started dating someone who kind of introduced him to it.

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Now, that being said, I don't know if he did any self-exploration on his own earlier in life, but I do remember him telling me that an ex introduced him to it sometime after his divorce.

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So that's my final answer.

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I know from my time with my subbie that he is highly sensitive and extremely stimulated by ass play.

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That is the physical aspect of it.

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There is an immediate reaction.

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If I even get close to his asshole, that may be TMI for you guys.

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Sorry about it, you guys Sorry about it With the ass play.

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Aside from the physical reaction that he has, there is a whole nother emotional aspect that goes along with pegging for him.

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When I am pegging him, I am in total control and doing what I want with him, which is everything he craves in our relationship.

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He loves when I just take control and do what I want, which is basically our relationship.

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In a nutshell, pegging is a whole nother level of connection for us.

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He tends to be much more submissive and a little clingy after a good pegging, which I enjoy, which I enjoy.

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Next topic is how was I introduced to it, or how did he introduce it to me and what were my initial thoughts?

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I'm going to be very blunt here, so hang on and hopefully I don't offend anyone.

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First of all, I have never personally been a fan of anal sex.

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I have participated a time or two, but usually I was drunk and, oddly enough, in the shower.

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Don't ask me how those two go together, but it's just how it's happened.

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Two go together, but it's just how it's happened.

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That being said, me on the receiving end of anal play has, for the most part, been a hard no, and I think I probably expressed that to my subbie early on in our relationship.

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I believe, though, that it was during one of those exact conversations that, to my surprise, I was then asked how I felt about being the giver in anal play.

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Well, me being the small-town girl dealing with small-town boys, that had never been an option, because the past men physically, boys mentally I had been with would have never let anything near their asshole, much less penetrate it, because that would mean they were gay.

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Yes, this is the mindset I was surrounded by, so when that question was presented, I had some processing to do.

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Of course, my first thought was and bear with me, I can't help it.

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It's just where my brain went.

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What if he shits all over me, gross?

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Which then moved to why would I want to shove a dick in anyone's ass when I don't even like a dick in my ass?

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I mean, they seemed like legitimate questions at the time.

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After some more thought, some more processing and realizing how dominant I truly was and letting that side shine out a little bit, the thought of being in control, like that, was a huge turn on.

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I just really needed to change my perspective on how I was looking at it, which leads me into the next topic of discussion, how I feel it fits into the dynamic of our FLR relationship.

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I think it's a perfect fit.

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Let me be totally honest here and say that the amount of dominance I feel the second that strap-on is on is insane.

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There are some days where I question my dominance.

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Some days life is just a bitch and I second guess things.

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I'm human and I like to overthink things, sometimes A lot.

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I'm an overthinker.

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I can't fucking help it.

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But I will tell you, the second that strap-on is on, I don't second guess anything and I just take control and I love every minute of it.

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I think it is an amazing addition to our female-led relationship.

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However, I don't think it has to be a part of your relationship to have a successful female-led relationship.

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Pegging is not for everyone, much like most things I talk about on this podcast, but for me and my relationship personally, it is an amazing part of it, for sure.

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Final topic of discussion is my advice for women hesitant to try it or curious about it.

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Is my advice for women hesitant to try it or curious about it?

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No-transcript Ladies, I am with you on the hesitant part.

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Like I said, my first worry was getting shit on.

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I will say, as far as that goes, there are things that guys can do to prepare for a good pegging session.

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Just know that the first time you participate in a pegging session it is probably going to be like your first time having sex in most cases Awkward, maybe even a little embarrassing at points.

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It can be a struggle to find a position that's comfortable for everyone involved and be prepared.

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It's a fucking workout.

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Holy shit, I got to hand it to you men.

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You guys really have to put the work in.

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Sometimes when it comes to sex Props to you, I appreciate it.

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In my opinion, once you get the hang of it, it's amazing.

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Start out slow, maybe just do some finger play, see if you like it, move up to a vibrator.

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If you like it, move up to a vibrator, move up to a dildo and then move up to the strap-on.

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I would just suggest that you discuss what feels good and what doesn't, and what positions work and what ones don't.

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It's all about open communication.

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I say it all the time If you aren't comfortable talking about it with your partner, it might be a little awkward actually participating in the action.

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I think that about sums up the topics that he wanted to talk about.

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Again, I only gave a brief summary answer of what I think my subbie will say.

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We will go maybe a little bit more in depth on the New Year's episode, so this was maybe just a little bit of a preview kind of my side.

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I will be kind of curious to see what my subbie says about if he ever experimented with ass play when he was younger.

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It's kind of sexy, I'm not gonna lie.

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I hope you enjoyed it and I hope you come back for the New Year's episode.

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Hope everyone has a fantastic short week and we'll see you on New Year's Eve.

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Take care.

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