Jan. 8, 2025
0102 - From Vanilla to Female Led Relationships
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Hi, I’m Krystine Kellogg, and welcome to my podcast, where I share my journey of discovering the Female Led Relationship (FLR) lifestyle. This is a deeply personal exploration, as I navigate from a 100% vanilla background into a world filled with new dynamics, trust, and empowerment. My aim is to provide relatable, real-world insights to help you understand FLR through my eyes and experiences.
In this episode, I recount the transformative moment when my now "subby" introduced the concept of an open relationship—one where I could explore my sexuality freely while he found fulfillment in supporting me. It was a mix of surprise, curiosity, and, honestly, some “WTF” moments.
From learning about his desire for male chastity to redefining traditional roles, this episode dives into the emotional conversations and personal growth that brought us to embrace a female-led dynamic.
Value to Listeners:
If you’re curious about FLR or navigating the complexities of alternative relationship styles, this episode is for you. It highlights the importance of communication, patience, and exploring boundaries in a healthy, respectful way. Whether you’re considering FLR or just intrigued by new perspectives on relationships, you’ll find practical takeaways and relatable stories here.
Key Takeaways:
- Introducing FLR Concepts: Krystine’s partner introduced an open relationship dynamic, sparking new ideas about trust and intimacy.
- Overcoming Initial Reactions: Krystine shares her honest reactions to male chastity and redefining relationship roles.
- Processing New Dynamics: Hours of conversations helped her grasp the possibilities of FLR and led to mutual understanding.
- The Power of Patience: Her partner’s patience and resources allowed her to explore at her own pace without pressure.
- Embracing the Journey: Krystine reflects on her growth and the empowering aspects of embracing FLR.
Potential Listener Search Questions:
- "How can I introduce my partner to an open relationship dynamic?"
- "What are the first steps to exploring a Female Led Relationship?"
- "How do I discuss male chastity with my partner?"
- "What are the benefits of redefining traditional relationship roles?"
- "How can communication improve intimacy in FLR?"
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Transcript
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This podcast is intended for mature audiences only.
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If you're not 18 years of age or older, there are thousands of other podcasts you can listen to and you can come back and visit us when you are 18.
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This podcast is meant solely for entertainment.
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We are not licensed doctors, lawyers, or therapists.
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We simply have a fascination with the lifestyle and I'd love to share it with you and get your thoughts and opinions.
00:00:36.890 --> 00:00:46.270
Hey everyone, join me on my journey from living a 100% vanilla life to tiptoeing into a whole new world I never knew existed.
00:00:47.149 --> 00:00:51.149
Exploring a life that puts a whole new spin on sex and its meaning to me.
00:00:51.710 --> 00:00:56.149
From chastity devices and cuckolding to my experiences in the lifestyle.
00:00:57.109 --> 00:01:03.170
I have met some amazing people and had some crazy experiences and learned a lot about myself.
00:01:12.469 --> 00:01:18.370
So here I am, floating along through life with a pretty shitty outlook on sex.
00:01:19.150 --> 00:01:29.129
I decide to hit up some dating apps just to see what's out there besides an inbox full of dick pics, a subject we will address at a later time.
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And I come across a man with these eyes that just suck me right into my phone.
00:01:35.629 --> 00:01:41.469
Of course, I had to swipe right or left or hit thumbs up or however those apps work.
00:01:42.069 --> 00:01:45.709
Can't seem to remember now, but man, am I glad I knew what I was doing then.
00:01:47.010 --> 00:01:51.349
We started messaging through the dating app and then eventually we exchanged phone numbers.
00:01:52.310 --> 00:02:10.110
We text quite a bit for roughly a month or so during which time we learned the basic vanilla, a term six years ago I didn't even know existed, but we learned the basic vanilla things about each other, kids, likes, dislikes, and the fact that he wasn't willing to relocate, which wasn't a problem.
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I was ready to get the hell out of my small town and et cetera.
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You know, basic vanilla things.
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We eventually had our first date, which consisted of him driving four hours round trip to take me out on my one hour lunch from work.
00:02:26.409 --> 00:02:26.969
Crazy.
00:02:27.710 --> 00:02:30.530
I knew the first time I hugged him, but he was my forever.
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Cheesy as it sounds, I just knew.
00:02:34.590 --> 00:02:42.169
After our first date, things progressed pretty quickly and we got more in depth about getting to really know each other.
00:02:42.870 --> 00:02:47.750
I will never forget the first time he addressed the lifestyle with me.
00:02:48.330 --> 00:02:53.930
I was sitting at my patio table smoking a cigarette and he said, there's something we need to talk about.
00:02:54.430 --> 00:03:01.610
I, of course, automatically assumed the worst, but had no clue what was about to come my way.
00:03:03.469 --> 00:03:14.270
He says that he's very interested in being in an open relationship to the extent of me being able to do what I want sexually with other people, but that he has no interest in doing the same.
00:03:15.270 --> 00:03:15.750
Hmm.
00:03:16.569 --> 00:03:17.050
Interesting.
00:03:18.129 --> 00:03:24.789
He would much prefer to be home with the kids and cleaning the house while I'm out having fun.
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First words that come to mind.
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What the fuck?
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He said it would be an extreme turn on for him.
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Wow.
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How the fuck does my small town mind unpack everything he has just dropped in my lap?
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So many things going through my mind from how can he not care if I fuck another man to wait, men actually clean.
00:03:48.849 --> 00:03:54.129
Yes, I know that sounds sexist, but you have to consider my past relationships.
00:03:54.930 --> 00:04:03.449
I have done everything for the men in my past, cooked, cleaned, taking care of kids and them for that matter.
00:04:04.330 --> 00:04:09.110
The men of my past have been more like an extra person to care for than an equal partner.
00:04:09.409 --> 00:04:17.370
And now I have a man who is saying he wants to do more than his share of the housework and help me with my kids and let me go out and have fun.
00:04:18.149 --> 00:04:19.490
This is just fucking weird.
00:04:19.829 --> 00:04:21.069
Am I in the twilight zone?
00:04:22.810 --> 00:04:33.790
So begins the hours and hours of conversation and processing that must happen for me to even begin to grasp the endless possibilities in store for me.
00:04:35.430 --> 00:04:37.769
So many emotions and confusion.
00:04:38.389 --> 00:04:44.750
However, this man of mine is so many things with the biggest being patient.
00:04:45.649 --> 00:04:49.990
By far one of the most patient men I have had in my life.
00:04:50.610 --> 00:04:54.370
I knew nothing about all these new things being introduced to me.
00:04:54.990 --> 00:05:05.709
He provided me with information, websites, podcasts, books, etc. to let me read up on things myself and absorb at my own pace and was never pushy with me.
00:05:06.430 --> 00:05:16.509
From day one, he has always told me that no matter how we choose to live our lives, he loves me for me and the lifestyle doesn't have to be a part of our lives.
00:05:17.910 --> 00:05:29.069
But after some processing, I was intrigued and fascinated by all the new things I was learning and all the while I was learning new things, things were developing in me.
00:05:29.970 --> 00:05:31.269
I mean, look at me now.
00:05:31.269 --> 00:05:38.329
I'm married to the man of my dreams who has his little dick locked in a cage while he cleans our home and provides for our family.
00:05:39.709 --> 00:05:50.449
Tune in next time to hear more about how his little cock ended up in a cage and how we fell into the natural roles of our FLR female led relationship.
00:05:51.629 --> 00:05:53.970
Thank you so much for listening to today's episode.
00:05:54.250 --> 00:05:55.870
I'd love to be able to connect with you.
00:05:56.209 --> 00:05:58.329
So the best place to do that is probably Twitter.
00:05:58.629 --> 00:06:00.910
You can look for at Christine Kellogg.
00:06:01.329 --> 00:06:05.009
Also, I can be reached at christinekellogg at gmail.com.
00:06:05.329 --> 00:06:09.850
If you would like to support this podcast, find me on Patreon at Christine Kellogg.
00:06:10.149 --> 00:06:18.910
I have all sorts of exclusive content like photos and erotic audio drama, premium Snapchat, custom Spank Bank audios and more.
00:06:20.589 --> 00:06:22.810
Again, thank you so much.
00:06:23.230 --> 00:06:32.290
Be good human beings, stay safe and I will continue on the next episode when we talk about me getting my mind blown about female led relationships.
00:06:33.230 --> 00:06:33.449
Mwah!
00:00:04.059 --> 00:00:07.480
This podcast is intended for mature audiences only.
00:00:07.620 --> 00:00:15.539
If you're not 18 years of age or older, there are thousands of other podcasts you can listen to and you can come back and visit us when you are 18.
00:00:16.199 --> 00:00:18.379
This podcast is meant solely for entertainment.
00:00:18.760 --> 00:00:21.699
We are not licensed doctors, lawyers, or therapists.
00:00:22.359 --> 00:00:28.100
We simply have a fascination with the lifestyle and I'd love to share it with you and get your thoughts and opinions.
00:00:36.890 --> 00:00:46.270
Hey everyone, join me on my journey from living a 100% vanilla life to tiptoeing into a whole new world I never knew existed.
00:00:47.149 --> 00:00:51.149
Exploring a life that puts a whole new spin on sex and its meaning to me.
00:00:51.710 --> 00:00:56.149
From chastity devices and cuckolding to my experiences in the lifestyle.
00:00:57.109 --> 00:01:03.170
I have met some amazing people and had some crazy experiences and learned a lot about myself.
00:01:12.469 --> 00:01:18.370
So here I am, floating along through life with a pretty shitty outlook on sex.
00:01:19.150 --> 00:01:29.129
I decide to hit up some dating apps just to see what's out there besides an inbox full of dick pics, a subject we will address at a later time.
00:01:29.950 --> 00:01:35.010
And I come across a man with these eyes that just suck me right into my phone.
00:01:35.629 --> 00:01:41.469
Of course, I had to swipe right or left or hit thumbs up or however those apps work.
00:01:42.069 --> 00:01:45.709
Can't seem to remember now, but man, am I glad I knew what I was doing then.
00:01:47.010 --> 00:01:51.349
We started messaging through the dating app and then eventually we exchanged phone numbers.
00:01:52.310 --> 00:02:10.110
We text quite a bit for roughly a month or so during which time we learned the basic vanilla, a term six years ago I didn't even know existed, but we learned the basic vanilla things about each other, kids, likes, dislikes, and the fact that he wasn't willing to relocate, which wasn't a problem.
00:02:10.270 --> 00:02:13.750
I was ready to get the hell out of my small town and et cetera.
00:02:14.289 --> 00:02:16.330
You know, basic vanilla things.
00:02:16.669 --> 00:02:25.389
We eventually had our first date, which consisted of him driving four hours round trip to take me out on my one hour lunch from work.
00:02:26.409 --> 00:02:26.969
Crazy.
00:02:27.710 --> 00:02:30.530
I knew the first time I hugged him, but he was my forever.
00:02:31.050 --> 00:02:33.229
Cheesy as it sounds, I just knew.
00:02:34.590 --> 00:02:42.169
After our first date, things progressed pretty quickly and we got more in depth about getting to really know each other.
00:02:42.870 --> 00:02:47.750
I will never forget the first time he addressed the lifestyle with me.
00:02:48.330 --> 00:02:53.930
I was sitting at my patio table smoking a cigarette and he said, there's something we need to talk about.
00:02:54.430 --> 00:03:01.610
I, of course, automatically assumed the worst, but had no clue what was about to come my way.
00:03:03.469 --> 00:03:14.270
He says that he's very interested in being in an open relationship to the extent of me being able to do what I want sexually with other people, but that he has no interest in doing the same.
00:03:15.270 --> 00:03:15.750
Hmm.
00:03:16.569 --> 00:03:17.050
Interesting.
00:03:18.129 --> 00:03:24.789
He would much prefer to be home with the kids and cleaning the house while I'm out having fun.
00:03:26.069 --> 00:03:27.590
First words that come to mind.
00:03:28.069 --> 00:03:29.069
What the fuck?
00:03:29.729 --> 00:03:32.449
He said it would be an extreme turn on for him.
00:03:33.349 --> 00:03:33.909
Wow.
00:03:34.509 --> 00:03:39.469
How the fuck does my small town mind unpack everything he has just dropped in my lap?
00:03:39.889 --> 00:03:48.009
So many things going through my mind from how can he not care if I fuck another man to wait, men actually clean.
00:03:48.849 --> 00:03:54.129
Yes, I know that sounds sexist, but you have to consider my past relationships.
00:03:54.930 --> 00:04:03.449
I have done everything for the men in my past, cooked, cleaned, taking care of kids and them for that matter.
00:04:04.330 --> 00:04:09.110
The men of my past have been more like an extra person to care for than an equal partner.
00:04:09.409 --> 00:04:17.370
And now I have a man who is saying he wants to do more than his share of the housework and help me with my kids and let me go out and have fun.
00:04:18.149 --> 00:04:19.490
This is just fucking weird.
00:04:19.829 --> 00:04:21.069
Am I in the twilight zone?
00:04:22.810 --> 00:04:33.790
So begins the hours and hours of conversation and processing that must happen for me to even begin to grasp the endless possibilities in store for me.
00:04:35.430 --> 00:04:37.769
So many emotions and confusion.
00:04:38.389 --> 00:04:44.750
However, this man of mine is so many things with the biggest being patient.
00:04:45.649 --> 00:04:49.990
By far one of the most patient men I have had in my life.
00:04:50.610 --> 00:04:54.370
I knew nothing about all these new things being introduced to me.
00:04:54.990 --> 00:05:05.709
He provided me with information, websites, podcasts, books, etc. to let me read up on things myself and absorb at my own pace and was never pushy with me.
00:05:06.430 --> 00:05:16.509
From day one, he has always told me that no matter how we choose to live our lives, he loves me for me and the lifestyle doesn't have to be a part of our lives.
00:05:17.910 --> 00:05:29.069
But after some processing, I was intrigued and fascinated by all the new things I was learning and all the while I was learning new things, things were developing in me.
00:05:29.970 --> 00:05:31.269
I mean, look at me now.
00:05:31.269 --> 00:05:38.329
I'm married to the man of my dreams who has his little dick locked in a cage while he cleans our home and provides for our family.
00:05:39.709 --> 00:05:50.449
Tune in next time to hear more about how his little cock ended up in a cage and how we fell into the natural roles of our FLR female led relationship.
00:05:51.629 --> 00:05:53.970
Thank you so much for listening to today's episode.
00:05:54.250 --> 00:05:55.870
I'd love to be able to connect with you.
00:05:56.209 --> 00:05:58.329
So the best place to do that is probably Twitter.
00:05:58.629 --> 00:06:00.910
You can look for at Christine Kellogg.
00:06:01.329 --> 00:06:05.009
Also, I can be reached at christinekellogg at gmail.com.
00:06:05.329 --> 00:06:09.850
If you would like to support this podcast, find me on Patreon at Christine Kellogg.
00:06:10.149 --> 00:06:18.910
I have all sorts of exclusive content like photos and erotic audio drama, premium Snapchat, custom Spank Bank audios and more.
00:06:20.589 --> 00:06:22.810
Again, thank you so much.
00:06:23.230 --> 00:06:32.290
Be good human beings, stay safe and I will continue on the next episode when we talk about me getting my mind blown about female led relationships.
00:06:33.230 --> 00:06:33.449
Mwah!
